Let me get this clear. In reality, there is no special secret way to become feminine quickly and magically. It takes some time and patience if you don’t already have some feminine traits. Some even believe that it is a gift, and you whether have it or you don’t, and you just need to accept this fact. I don’t think so.
Femininity Is Inside
What I think is that femininity is something that EVERY woman has, and the only thing she really needs to do is to remember it, as in – recalling who you are and then remembering it as you go in life. So I am not a fan of “special courses” or “amazing classes” on how to become so irresistible that all men will fall to your feet offering you the world. Most of these so-called classes are really about manipulation and seducing. I mean, there is nothing wrong about seducing as long as the intentions are good and as long as BOTH partners are enjoying it. So using femininity to gain some benefit is a no-no. Karma never sleeps.
However, femininity as a phenomenon itself is still very alluring to people and not quite fully understood. It is usually hard to say where it comes from, because it is neither about physical appearances nor about dresses and heels. A woman can be very simple looking and yet, have many men around her all the time. What is her secret? It is apparently somewhere inside.
So, since femininity is something you really cannot buy, it must be something valuable, or rather – invaluable, that we can try to remember and then cultivate in our life. Before we jump into 10 ways to become feminine, let me clarify the second most important question – why to do it?
Why Do We Need To Be Feminine?
You are probably thinking – “Why do I need this? I am perfectly fine”. Girl, I hear you. You really don’t HAVE to do anything. Everyone is free here. One little detail though. You probably do need your femininity if:
♥ you want to enjoy dating
♥ you want a relationship
♥ you want a family
♥ you want to expand your female potential by combining it with male force
So, to answer your question – no, you don’t need this. Unless you do want those four things that many women want. Basically, you need it to be able to successfully be in a couple, and want it to last, and want it to not be frustrating. If you don’t care about relationships, that is totally fine.
Now, off we go to 10 ways.
Obviously, this is not something that is very popular because of the modern trends in the media. Nevertheless, this quality is something that is actually quite valuable, and many men are still looking for it. If anything, they are actually looking for it a lot, because they subconsciously know what comes with it in a girl – a good potential long-term partner or maybe even a wife. Although women with the opposite behavior may (sometimes) attract more men at first, it does not last long, and they attract a different quality of connection. It is very easy to attract with your overly sexual attire and free behavior. It is not so easy to do it by being proper.
Being feminine means having a deep intriguing character, so it is a powerful personal trait. And to be powerful you need to be emotionally and intellectually developed. So, an attractive woman is always a very pleasant companion who is also able to hold a conversation on any subject. To be that, you need to make sure to read books, to just be interested in a world and to try to communicate and spend time with many different people, and have a couple of fun hobbies. If this is all not about you, I would suggest starting with one thing – find a hobby. It is better if it is something creative and somehow connected to getting new information and to communication.
Often times it may be difficult to become feminine because women cannot relax and be themselves. And if you try to be someone you are not, it brings fakeness in everything: from the way you talk to the way you carry yourself. It is always very well seen and really ruins the experience of you. So start working on relaxation and acceptance of yourself the way you are.
Like I mentioned earlier being feminine is not only about physical appearance or the way you talk but also how you act in certain situations. A woman has a very diplomatic nature by default, so solving something forcefully is not her strongest feature. The greatest women in history were known to skillfully direct men’s minds that they were with. So wisdom and experience can make a woman a very reliable partner and just a desirable woman to be around. Obviously, those are very valuable qualities to also have for a wife because she should be able to calm down, to reconcile and to make the space cozy and warm.
Style is something you can create using just what you already have. That means you don’t need a lot of money for expensive clothes or fancy jewelry. As long as you have a good sense of style, you can look much better than any fashionista out there. A sense of style can be an innate quality. And if it is not the case, it can also be developed – by spending time with the right people at the right places where you can watch, listen and learn. Most importantly, you need to be open to experimenting and trying new things.
Much like style, a woman’s taste can be a natural thing or it can be developed. Your interests are usually an indication of your sense of taste. Your preferences in literature, in music, in movies or art, food and recreational activities. And although bad taste is not the end of the world, generally it may ruin the impression. So, good taste can add another wonderful quality to you as a feminine woman and will definitely help to bring more attention to you.
These ones can be an additional little cherry on top because details make you stand out and be really different. While many women try to copy and mimic the style of models or celebrities, they in fact really lose in that game. Details make you – you, they help create your unique image and bring out your individuality. So it is a good idea to experiment with your looks and gestures and try to find that “je ne sais quoi” that will be an adorable and different little detail about you.
Your environment makes you, that is a fact. And also, people who surround you also make an impression about you, for someone who looks at you from aside. So, following this logic, if you are surrounded by someone who does not really bring out the feminine charm, there will be no femininity. Just remember, that people generally like to make assumptions and label everyone. So, try to spend more time with people whose level you want to reach, and not with the ones who you exceed. Then, your femininity will be noticed and opinion about you will be high.
This is about mystery and unpredictable surprising personality traits. Now, if we take celebrities, most often that is a marketing game that creates this big fuss around them without really revealing who they are. And while you don’t have to be a celebrity to have that, you can definitely still create mystery around your person to become more feminine. In fact, once you have it, you better keep it until the rest of your life. Because you really do not want anyone to figure you out completely. How do we create mystery?
♥ Share fewer details about yourself. I am not asking you to lie but you can learn how to speak a little vaguely.
♥ Always try to create an understatement. And by that I mean – your actions or words should not make it easier for another person to read you. That other person should always try to figure out why you do this or that the way you do it.
♥ Never do something that other people are expecting you to do. Being spontaneous is really very easy, and this will definitely make you stand out from other women.
Yes, I keep going back to manners and etiquette on this blog because frankly, it is hard to imagine a feminine woman without it. There is a reason why etiquette was even created because it is a brilliant tool and a way to present yourself how you want to another person. Unfortunately, most people ignore etiquette thinking that it limits their freedom or creativity. But the reality is – it is a valuable tool that will always work time and time again once you learn to use it. So, excellent manners comprise of:
♥ Sense of moderation and relevance
♥ Respect towards a person you have a conversation with.
Once you are skilled in your manners, it creates this aura of nobility around you. They will speak loud about your upbringing, your emotional maturity, and your deep intellectual level. Having manners does not mean pretending to be someone else. To truly have manners is about to be organically yourself, otherwise, the whole idea of etiquette loses its point. So don’t be afraid to appear fake, this is only a stereotype.