We all want to find love. We are all looking for “The One” and it may take some long time before it happens. And once it happens, we don’t always know how to keep our love the way it was at the very beginning. We all have this wonderful sweet period of time at the beginning of relationships but later on, it seems to fade away. And sometimes what happens is we realize that maybe all this time our partner’s heart has never been truly open. When we understand that, we often try all kinds of ways to try to understand how to open man’s heart but it can also be very hard. We stay in this darkness of wondering how to open their man’s heart and sometimes never having a success, break apart.
We Are Different
However, there is always a solution. It always lays somewhere and we just need to find the right direction to look for it. When we are together in relationships, we need to remember one very important thing: we are different. Both men and women tend to forget that and expect from other gender something they would do themselves. But this not how we both work. We are very different and need a different approach. We especially need that approach when we want to feel loved. Wouldn’t it be nice if your man just knew exactly how you need to be loved and exactly what to do to ensure your security and happiness? Well, I may write something about it later on, and you can “accidentally” share it with him 😉 For right now, let’s focus on him.
When we are together in relationships, we need to remember one very important thing: we are different.
Since we have established that we are different, and have different needs and wants, let’s look at what men need and want, so that they can feel loved and appreciated. There are three secret ways to make him feel loved, although once you learn about them you realize they are not big of a secret. If you listen to your intuition, you will understand that this is exactly what your man has been wanting all this time. I am pretty sure.
And, once you learn about them, I encourage you to ask your man what he thinks about them. You can even comment here or send me quick feedback.
Three Secret Ways Revealed
So, let’s look at three secret but magical ways to open your man’s heart. Oh, before we do that, I want to add one very important piece of information. It is incredibly important to remember it. These ways are NOT to be used in a manipulative way. If you want to open your man’s heart just to use him or to get something out of it, don’t do it. It will have consequences. Instead, do it from your own heart, with the pure intention of love and deeper connection. So use these ways responsibly and wisely. Ready?
First Secret: He is Needed
This is pretty simple. Secret number one is that all men want to be needed. Yes, they all do. They want to be significant and important for the world in general, and especially for their loved ones. They need to see that their goals and dreams are needed and that their achievements will make someone happy.
So, what happens if you can do it all by yourself? A very popular way of doing things lately, mind you. If you “can do it all by yourself”, and if you ignore or disregard men, their help and their knowledge, they don’t see any point of being with you. What for?
So, how do you show your man you need him?
Good Ways To Do It
+ Directly share what you want, they cannot read minds. At least, most of them. (And if you find one who can – keep him). Just share simply and directly what it is that you want, including in your relationships.
+ Share more things about you. Moderately, but make sure to do that instead of staying mysterious (it is good, but again – moderately).
+ Give him time to do what you asked him to do. Do not rush. Otherwise, it will make it even harder for him to open his heart.
+ Give him a reason for a heroic deed.
+ Say “I want”, “I need”, “Can you please do…”. Simply and openly, with a calm voice.
+ Remind him of something he did in the past and tell him how that still warms your heart until today.
+ Thank him as often as possible. There can never be enough of this. Gratitude is a very important secret way to open his heart wide.
+ Express your gratitude not only with words but with sincere genuine admiration, smile and lovely look.
Being genuinely open in relationships is one of the most important secret ways to open his heart.
Bad Ways To Do It
– Hoping he will guess himself, or he will read your mind.
– Staying silent about your wishes and hopes, about your dreams and plans and your expectations. Being genuinely open in relationships is one of the most important secret ways to open his heart.
– Refusing man’s help with words “I can do it myself”. It is especially deadly after you have just asked him to do it.
– Saying “Could you do that?..” That implies that maybe he couldn’t, and how do you already know that?
– Being upset and saying things like “You never/nothing/always/..”. Because it is simply not possible that your man would never/nothing/always do or don’t do anything for you.
– Taking charge in many things and becoming excessively responsible. In this case, men think that it is your true wish and they give way to you. Also, psychologically it is perceived as you taking man’s role. So subconsciously, he would not want to do anything.
– Leaving all that he did and said to you without any gratitude.
– Thanking him in return to what he did with another action. Again, this is something a man would do to a man, not a woman to a man.
Second Secret: He is Free
Interestingly enough, no matter how much men want to be needed, they also want to stay free. All of them. So it is important to understand – they want to do everything only when THEY are ready for it. Voluntarily. And do it only the way THEY want it, without any suggestions or advises or explanations. Your business is to share your need, his business is to do it whenever he is ready and however he wants to. Otherwise, it will be quite hard to open his heart by telling him how and when to do things, thus taking away his freedom.
No matter how much men want to be needed, they also want to stay free.
Good Ways To Do It
+ Give him time to accomplish whatever you asked. Do not rush.
+ Help him understand that it is okay to make a mistake because all humans do. This will help lower the importance of a mistake.
+ Your explanation of “why” should be shorter than your request.
+ Remind him lightly, like for the first time, that he is needed. Very much.
+ Give him the sense of lightness, freedom, easiness while he is with you.
Bad Ways To Do It
– Demanding for your request to be fulfilled immediately after you shared it, and then blaming him for not doing it. He is not your servant, and you are not a Queen of England.
– Rushing him and nagging him saying things like “When will you finally do it..” or “Why do I have to do everything myself”.
– Giving a very long explanation of why you need what you asked. This will give him an impression of manipulation, which will most likely be the case.
– Saying the deadly “I told you” or “I knew it” if he made a mistake. This will not only keep you away from opening his heart but will also shut his heart down even more.
Third Secret: He Is Fully Accepted
Let me guess. You probably already know what is wrong with him and have a thing or two you are planning to fix. Or another scenario – you are building relationships with him secretly hoping that with time some other qualities will open up that will make you love him more. Unfortunately, I have bad news for you. You will have to wait for forever.
The third secret way to open his heart is to accept him the way he is COMPLETELY. Only then there is a chance that he will want to change something about himself if this is something important for you. I know generally us women, we are perfectionist and just always think he has this amazing potential, and you just see it in him. I’ve been there. This is never the way to open his heart. You need to accept him exactly the way he is and love him for that. And if you feel like you cannot do it and you are not happy, then it is simply not your man.
Good Ways To Do It
+ Make sure to start and develop relationships with a man whose flaws do not bother you so much. This will already open his heart.
+ Ask for advice from your man.
+ If he made a mistake and did something wrong, just tell him that you did not expect this from him.
+ If he asks for a bit of advice himself, do not give it to him. Just tell him, that he most likely knows what to do, he knows better and that he can figure it out himself and you will support him all the time. (I can expand on it later because this can turn into a very large explanation, but for now – just trust me).
+ When he distances himself, let him. Meanwhile, you do you and do whatever you enjoy doing. Once he comes back, his feelings will be deeper and stronger. (Because remember – secret number two?)
+ And make sure you are always happy when he comes back.
+ Genuinely support and admire his ideas and his thoughts that he can achieve anything.
+ Trust him and believe in him. This helps him grow and gives him the power to achieve even more.
+ One of the most important things – learn how to be happy by yourself. Dedicate this time to yourself only and realize how valuable it is.
+ Be crazy about yourself. If you are so crazy about yourself, everyone else will be too. And of course, it will open his heart more.
Now, one important key. All of these secret ways work only when they happen together at the same time. This means: he sees that you need him, but he is also free and fully accepted the way he is. This magical combination will help you open your man’s heart. And please remember to use them only with love, wisdom, and sincerity.
Love and be loved.