Our world is full of dualities and each has its own place and role. Up and down, dark and light, good and evil. And in these is the beauty of it. And everything in this world is in a perfect balance and order, even though we may not see it this way at first. If one side of the world is growing, then the other side of it will be degrading.
Like one of the dualities, our world has its spiritual side and material side. Currently, we are witnessing and experiencing the growth of the material side and degradation of the spiritual side. And, since everything is in perfect balance and order, this is part of the plan. So, don’t panic. We will get where we need to be on time. Right now we are going through the phase where material things have more value than spiritual ones. And, sadly, it especially affects women.
Modern Trends Of Femininity
At all times there are always trends that get promoted by someone higher. Someone whose interests are usually not the same as ours and far from ideal. Using media, among other trends, there is one trend now that remains popular for decades. It is the image of a woman who is beautiful, sexual, self-sufficient, independent, and well, bitchy. They call this kind of woman “the Queen of the world”, someone who is not easily available. Someone who knows everything and can do everything.
Isn’t it the image that often corresponds to attraction and sexuality? This is the main trend and a lot of women, especially of younger age, aspire to be that woman. And by doing so, they put themselves in some box of ideas of how a woman should be to become more attractive, more sexual, more desirable for others.
Let’s take a quick look at what women do to match this image. They often wear very short dresses and skirts (or sometimes even skip it altogether), have casual sexual relations, probably have excessive body adornments in the form of tattoos and piercing. Or on the contrary: they dress expressively elegant, high fashion looks, someone who gives a vibe of “high maintenance” and “high class” and thus, unavailable.
And of course, there are multiple courses and classes where they can teach women how to be sexually desirable or even bitchy to get what they want. I’d like to explore if it is in fact truly desirable, feminine, and sexual and what is the outcome. Is it possible to build good relationships and happy families coming from this kind of image?
Ancient Wisdom of Vedas
My all-time favorite Vedic wisdom shares its insight on the relations between men and women, and how sexuality has always been and will always be the basis of femininity. Now, like any other energy, sexual energy can be different and can be manifested in this world on three different levels. These levels will define our type of femininity and will give us some ideas and answers on what kind of feminine and sexual we would like to be.
According to Vedic tradition, there are three levels of existence or nature – sattvic (harmonious), rajasic (passionate), and tamasic (ignorance). Sexual energy can be manifested on these same levels – on the level of harmony, on the level of passion and on the level of ignorance. Let’s look at them all a little deeper to understand them better.
Sexuality In Ignorance
Sexuality on this level is a pure animal instinct. People meet and have sexual relations in ignorance. They suddenly have an urge and they want to satisfy their sex organs. Usually, it happens fast and then the two go apart. There is no commitment or any sort of depth on this level. People on the level of tamas are guided by their animalistic nature, so their only interest is to satisfy physiological needs, so it is usually just sex and nothing else.
At this level of sexuality and sexual relations, there is no understanding of energy exchange or energetic connections and cords that always appear after this sort of connection and that always affect both of their lives later. The world for these people’s consciousness is very simple – it is a primitive material world where all you want it satisfaction.
Sexuality in Passion
On this level, things are more fun and exciting. Also, the majority of people on this planet experience sexuality on this level currently. Because the majority of this planet exists and operates from the level of Rajas – passion. Sex on this level is a way to grow in your career, it is the basis of businesses, politics, and just overall public influence. The whole sexual and porn industry exists (and thrives) on this level, offering a grand variety of sex toys, costumes, gadgets, movies, and many other fun sexual things for more pleasure and more passion.
Main values on this level are bright emotions, spontaneity, bright colors, strong new sensations – better, longer, louder, more dangerous, more risky, more careless, etc. Unfortunately, these types of sexual relations most people on this planet now perceive as love, and as norm. And guess who we can find here on this level of bright and loud passion? Our very trendy desirable and sexual woman who is self-sufficient and bitchy, and a man who is a real macho man and alpha male. And with them together – lots and lots of uncontrollable passion.
Short Rajasic Love
What happens next? Well, since passion is fire, it cannot burn forever. Most of the time, it burns out and becomes a memory in people’s past. This type of sexuality is a stepping stone between sexuality in ignorance and sexuality in harmony. Relationships on this level simply do not have a future. Fire goes away eventually, and people become depressed and start to irritate each other. People do not grow here, as there is no understanding of values and goals. There is no understanding of a Divine Game, which means there is no spiritual growth and growth of souls.
Often times, when passion goes away, people fall back into tamasic relationships. There they live out of habit and routine, only having intimate relationships on the level of animals to satisfy their needs, which creates more karma. And, the sex industry thrives exactly from these customers. It does everything to keep people on this level of passion. And this in turn stops their spiritual growth. And it stops what needs to happen if relations would grow and develop – going on a higher level.
Sexuality in Harmony
Sexuality as a union of male and female is the basis of morality in society. If people would not aspire to something higher and purer, to a more harmonious understanding of themselves and the world, to a higher level of relationships, and to sex as something sacred, it is a way to degradation. If we don’t write and talk about the beauty and chivalry in books, movies and don’t create new trends of higher moral values, it is a way to degradation.
So, that is why people who are seeking to grow and to understand their spiritual divine essence, and the essence of the whole existence, will always look for and be in relationships and sex in harmony. What does it really mean? Before you read further, stop here and try to answer that question yourself.
Sexual energy in harmony is dramatically different from the other two. It is Divine Sexuality, a direct manifestation of the power of creation of the Divine Father and Divine Mother (I am talking outside of any religion now). There is no place for competing and rushing here. It is about subtle, sensual, and deep pleasures, something that is higher than humans and their emotions. It is simply a way to get in touch with the Eternal and the Divine.
On this level of sexual relations, there are no games and drama. This is where the true nature of a person comes out, the divine nature. On this level, we can understand the beauty of our body, drink, and enjoy the nectar of our pure divine energy that brings life. This is the level of healing, inspiration, and fulfillment of each other. It is an everlasting source of vitality and divine creation. It opens its gates to a couple united their hearts in one, to understand God through this unity.
Unconditional Love and Sexuality
On the level of harmonious sexuality, there is always growth of a human soul. It is a level of complete and total trust in your partner, as it is a complete trust ib the Divine nature inside of him. The birth of such a couple is a true blessing and is a form of art. Man and woman in this union truly become one, one alive wise entity. It is stronger, more beautiful, and higher than them separately by themselves. Because of this union there is a following of the eternal Stream of Life of the infinite wisdom of the Almighty. There are no boundaries in these relationships, no ego, and only the true essence of each partner. There is nothing you can hide here, as there is nothing that belongs to you or to him. Everything here is “ours”.
This is what we call unconditional love.
Now, the magic happens. As soon as a woman realizes the Divine nature of her man, she connects with God through connection with him. This is when she understands the depth of relationships. She loves him not for something because “something” might not be here tomorrow. She loves him period, she loves God and Creator within her partner. It is her choice and it is her decision to love him. She loves him not because he does or does not do something but because she discovers God through the relationships with him. Her love on this level is eternal and neverending, seeking to grow and develop like an Eternal Soul that is drawn to new depths and heights of its existence while being in a human body.
And what is there for a man? When he discovers the Divine nature of his woman and learns about the depths of existence through relationships with her, he is able to connect with the Earth and Nature themselves. He connects with all the material and mysterious of this world through her orgasms, directing the Earth itself deeply through his woman. He is the Light of the Creator that penetrates the most secret worlds, the darkness. And he puts a seed in there so that it grows and reaches for the light, full of life and the unity of the two – male and female.
When we discover and learn sexuality in harmony, we purify our body and soul. We become lighter, clearer, kinder, and purer. We learn to take care of our loved ones and carefully treat each other. The whole society will bloom and grow morally from this kind of relationship.