Beauty and femininity are ageless and can’t be contrived, and glamour, although the manufacturers won’t like this, cannot be manufactured. Not real glamour; it’s based on femininity. – Marilyn Monroe
Every woman of a certain age cannot help but think if she is beautiful enough, or young enough, or feminine enough. There always comes a moment in life – whether she is 28 or 68 – when she inevitable thinks that perhaps she is no longer… “something”. However, if we talk about a woman, and if talk about femininity, one thing is for sure – there is no such thing as “age”. Beauty, as well as femininity, are truly ageless. And here is why.
Moon and Life
Femininity is a special quality of energy. It is something so very subtle, delicate, intricate, something that comes out from the depth of woman’s soul. It is something that cannot be quite taught, but only remembered and rebirthed again. And since it is energy, it really does not have an age limit. Woman can be feminine at any age, just the type of femininity changes.
The easiest and most natural way to describe different femininity types is to compare woman’s life periods with Moon cycles. In fact, in many tradition this is exactly the case: the phases of the Moon are strongly connected with the age of a woman psychologically and physiologically. Regardless if you are still young and have your moon cycle going on, or you already moved on to the next stage of your life, Moon cycles still affect you because you are still woman. That didn’t change in you. Just like it doesn’t change the Moon because whether it is waxing or waning, it is still a Moon.
So let’s take a look at different femininity archetypes that also correlate with Moon phases and life ages, and will discover something wonderful in the end.
⬤ Maiden – New Moon
This is the beginning. Another name of this phase is Virgin. This is the period of the New Moon, when it is growing to become Full. In a woman, this is the time when she is a little girl, pure and innocent, completely free of everything. We are like clean blank canvas. Seasonally, this is Spring.
Moon cycle. If we talk from the cycle perspective, it is New Moon day and seven days after that. Most of you probably notice how you literally lose all your energy and become powerless when the Moon is New. If you have not yet, I encourage you to monitor that next time. Since our connection with the Moon is strong, you will definitely notice how much weaker you feel at that time of the Moon. The peak of this weakness is 2-3 hours prior the New Moon phase. We become very slow emotionally and mentally too. And this okay.
This phase is a great time to re-evaluate your individual self, to reflect upon the idea of you. Because the Moon in the sky is so weak, it finally gives us a break allowing us to turn towards ourselves. This is when Moon’s influence is weakest, and it we can be in the state of nothingness, in a state of complete repose externally. This is the first day of the accumulation of Yin energy. It only grows more and more from now on.
Life cycle. If we talk woman’s age and life, it is the period from 12 to 25 years old. This is the period of life when we as girls learn a lot of things: we learn to love with our consciousness, mind and perception. We learn the principles of life. The best kind of behavior and attitude for a girl during this age is to act as if she is about to become a bride. It does not mean necessarily that it will happen, but psychologically it is very important and very nurturing for woman’s psyche.
Bride-to-be usually is someone who is a little pensive, a little slower than usual, very smart, very delicate and very intelligent in her life choices. She knows wisely to choose the right direction, while still flowing delicately in life. If this doesn’t happen at that age, subconsciously a young woman creates a potential scenario for herself in future where she won’t become a real bride, and then wife, and then mother. She simply won’t have foundation or enough accumulated energy for that.
☽ Enchantress – Waxing Moon
This is the second quarter of the Moon cycle and second part of the cycle. We are now open to something new, to our self-growth, self-development, and we start influencing the world by changing it. Seasonally, this is Summer.
Moon cycle. This period brings us a lot of energy, and especially our subtle feminine energy that specifically attracts Yang energy. So because of that it is the time when we are purely lovers, we attract mates, we dance and move sensually. We are passionate and orgasmic. For the same reason, this is also the most dangerous day of the Moon cycle, and our own physiological cycle is 14th and 15th days, when we are ovulating. This time can bring us temptations that can affect us in a negative way. And this will make us lose our power, which we only notice when this phase ends. So we should be very cautious during this time.
Life cycle. In life, that would be the period from 25 to 35 years old. What happens here is usually also very risky, because we keep growing more, metaphorically and literally speaking, and we want more things. Our appetite for life is growing, and if we don’t stop at some point, this can ruin everything. First of all, this is the time when most women realize they want to know themselves as women, and want to understand their feminine nature. What might happen is, from harmonious and reflective self-growth and self-learning, we can turn into destructive consumers.
This is the period of life when woman, if not wise enough, can lose everything. First of all, she can lose all her power, accumulated in her earlier life when she was younger. This happens because woman at this age is really involved in the external life, success, goals, career, relationships. If she disconnects from herself at that moment in life, this is when the struggle begins. When a woman is too much involved in her external life and achievements, she will eventually become emptied out inside. Eventually, she becomes anxious. If this does not happen, a young woman becomes a mature woman. She learns how to make wise mature decisions, how to create healthy relationships with the whole world while staying true to herself.
This is the time when we learn how to love with our sensations, feelings, states, with the separation of our own experience. We manifest new life scenarios, we meet and discover new people. So the main quality we learn at this life period is patience.
◯ Mother – Full Moon
This is the third phase of our cycle and third phase of the Moon. This is when woman fully blossoms into her Mother role. Such woman is able to accept and understand all the difficulties of life and issues of the world. Seasonally, this is Fall. So this period is all about harvesting what we planted before, realizations, transformation of the earlier experience, and also a great time of contentment and satisfaction.
Moon cycle. If the energy was not expressed right before that time, during our cycle this is when Premenstrual Syndrome occurs. It is nothing else than the explosion of accumulated unused energy. To avoid that, a wise woman should only invest her Enchantress energy from the previous state into loving relationships and love, while keeping herself pure and centered. Only then the right transformation will happen.
Life cycle. In life, this is the period of the age from 35 to 60, a fully bloomed ruler and hostess of house, a real spouse. However, this does not mean that it all literally happens in life. In previous two moon cycles and life cycles, woman accumulates energy to bring a new creation into this world, and it can be anything: a child, a favorite business, wisdom and experience or home. No matter what it is, it is all meaningful and all different aspects of feminine expression.
This is the period of life when we learn how to love through protection, loving-kindness and healing. This is the time when we finally learn about our self-value, our ability to take a rightfully earned place under the sun. We know where we are in life and what we truly want. Also, this is the first time when a woman can be a friend to her daughter, and initiate her into the womanhood, sharing her experience with her, telling her what would be the best way to go. Because now she knows what kind of “harvest” can come after actions in the past.
☾ Wise Woman – Waning Moon
This is the last phase of the Moon, waning, when Moon is about to disappear in the sky. This is about the state of death and a role of old woman. Also, this is about the aspect of the Highest Self. Seasonally, this is Winter. Like winter, this is the period of deep reflection, stillness, complete fundamental knowledge and stability. During this period a woman gains control over the matter and spirit. She can communicate with Gods, asking them to bring balance and peace between the world of Spirits and humans. At that time, she is that much close and that much connected to the other world. She is slowly getting ready to pass.
Moon cycle. This is the time when eggs die, and they can no longer nurture the feminine charm and attractiveness. So at this period of our cycle we are more prone to getting rid of things. We normally cleanse ourselves, doe rituals of energy clearing or just throw away our old selves or old belongings that we no longer need.
Life cycle. In life, it is the age of 60+, the age of grandmother. At this period, a woman is able to gently direct and give an advice without forcing her point of view on anyone. She knows that everything happens according to the great Cosmic order. This is when we are ready to love with full acceptance, unconditionally. We fully embrace everything and everyone. We see divine spark in every creature, we see the divinity of the whole world. This is when we become a true vessel of the Divine Will.
This is the second time when a woman can guide younger women, after Mother. She can enlighten them about what is coming, and what to expect, and how to follow their feminine path with least amount of losses. And she can do it all without any judgment, compassionately and with great love. This role in life is extremely important because a Wise Woman is a Guide for every woman. She is a wealth of feminine knowledge.
If this does not happen, and woman does not feel this way, this means that she came to this age immature and broken. She is not fully conscious of her Highest Self, so she is not able to help those who follow her. She is afraid of life and death, she is aggressive, easily offended, and blames everyone else in her failures in life. If this happens in family, young women decide that they don’t want to get old and simply afraid of this age. They know they will be alone and no one will be there to guide them.
As we can see, every cycle, of moon and of life, we gain something new and lose something old. We transform ourselves, we change and turn into a new woman. So every moon cycle of our body is like a whole miniature life in general. We get a chance to discover the qualities of each age that has its own details and experience.
And most of all, we learn that every age is perfect, and every age is beautiful. And every age has its own femininity, just of different quality. This helps us to understand that we can be a real woman at any age and not limit ourselves with life periods.
Femininity is our power, no matter the age. When we apply it and use it wisely, we remain wholesome, happy and complete.
Learn more about each archetype of woman in my other article.