Once you are into the subject, you enjoy it. A lot. You are so feminine and seductive, very sensual and caring, very this and very that. It is all very nice, but guess what, there are some “flaws” that we can discover at some point of our feminine journey. Since we talked about positive things a lot already, let’s take a look at “negative” ones.
There are a few of them. Once you start being feminine, you will notice them, I guarantee you.
Flaw of Extra Sensitivity
It comes naturally once you are in the feminine. You become more sensitive and emotional, about many things. One of the reasons is because you finally open your heart and get in touch with it. And besides bringing the ocean of love and happiness, it also brings the ocean of vulnerability and pain. It goes hand in hand. On top of that, our emotional level is much, much higher than that of men and that makes us very different from them.
Because of this sensitivity we become less stable and more worrisome. We just cannot help it. When we find ourselves in any situation, granted we are truly in the feminine, we don’t usually think about it. We feel it. We live it, with our whole being. And it is not always positive stuff, like I mentioned earlier. We basically take everything very close to our heart, because that heart of ours is fully awaken and open. So we become compassionate.
We start worrying about very little things, we start creating negative scenarios sometimes too much and too often. So we have a “great” ability to make a big deal out of nothing. Simply because we feel everything so deeply. That is why we have a wonderful tool – tears. We can still be sensitive and emotional, and to survive we use tears so that they can help us release all these feelings we have. So please, cry and cry a lot. It is very healing and very cleansing. Those tears of ours are special one, they are woman’s tears. Not just any tears. They keep as alive.
Don’t suppress your sensitivity, don’t suppress crying and certainly don’t think that crying is weakness. Don’t be afraid to be vulnerable. Some women stopped crying, at all. So they became very cold and harsh, they are not able to share their feelings anymore. It is hard for them to embrace, to touch and to share care and tenderness. They simply do not know how.
Don’t suppress your sensitivity, don’t suppress crying and certainly don’t think that crying is weakness.
So it important for us, women, to be in contact with our feelings and emotions, to understand them, to live them, to let them go and to keep our inner world in a perfect clean state. To be able to do that, we need to be alone sometimes. This is the time when we come back to ourselves, do self check-in, monitor our feelings, work with them. Solitude helps us cleanse ourselves internally, this is when we can find peace.
Also, it is important to understand that we need support. All women do. You cannot do it all by yourself. Well, you could but you burn out. You keep ignoring it which means your lose your beautiful feminine fragility, your elegance and grace that help men want to support you. There is nothing wrong with that. In fact, it is a perfect order of things. We all have our own role.
Feelings and emotions help us stay perceptive, understanding, thoughtful, delicate and attentive to ourselves and others. And that is when you are also able to act the same way – thoughtful, delicate and perceptive.
Flaw of Woman’s Logic
To be more precise, this flaw is about the lack of logic. Here is our secret, if you still don’t know it: women make their decisions mostly based on feelings. And since feelings change a lot, our decision can change too. We get excited very quickly, and we can lose interest even quicker. That is why we change our plans so often.
Reading between the lines is the only way to truly understand woman.
If a man makes a decision, he says “yes”, it really means yes and it will stay this way. When a woman says “yes”, we all know very well that sometimes it can actually mean “no”. So that means that our words and what we say sometimes means nothing. The way to know what woman really wants to say is the learn to really hear and feel what she means by that, behind her actual words. It is a real skill. Basically, reading between the lines is the only way to truly understand woman.
Unfortunately, most woman can decide one thing today, another thing tomorrow and end up doing something completely different. This is one of the toughest women’s qualities for men to deal with. This is exactly what makes them scared of women, because they never know what to expect.
This takes us to the first “flaw” – our extreme sensitivity. Because we base everything off of feelings, it makes us inconsistent, because feelings are never consistent. This all makes us unstable, careless and erratic. Woman can be impulsive and actions can come first before thoughts, because she felt this way. And – it is normal.
A real woman is always a little vague and inconsistent. To make her consistent and clear is to take away her mystery. And consistency and convenience are definitely not feminine qualities.
Flaw of Physical Appearance
As women, we have to feel and look beautiful. There is no other way. We want to be liked and loved so our physical appearance is important to us. It is our whole world, full of joys and worries, finding solutions and resolving issues. It has so much in there! And for men it can be a source of frustration and sometimes even irritation. They have different nature.
A woman is always different, just like weather. And she always needs something new. She wants to surprise and to impress. So she needs haircuts, make ups, manicures, pedicures, massages, spa procedure, facials and everything else. More than that, to feel better, she needs silk bed sheets, silver or gold bangles, nice perfume, good facial creams, laces and lingerie. We all need those little elements to nourish and support our world of beauty. They are all little rituals that feed our Shakti, our divine feminine.
A woman can go out with one look, then later the same day have another one, depending on her mood. Because clothes for women is an external expression of the internal world. If you dress the same way and wear same things, this is the sign that you stopped feeling and hearing yourself.
Woman’s body needs a lot of attention, love, care, energy, money and time. It is a given. For her to be able to feel nice and comfortable, it is important to have many clothes. It is important to have a nice house, where she can express her inner beauty through beautifying her space. Once she does it, she feels secure and stable.
Whenever a real woman gets ready for camping (although, not really a feminine activity), she will make sure to create nice and cozy ambiance even in the tent. Sometimes she may take so many things that it is easier for her to just stay home. Men are simple, they only really need bed and food.
However, please never feel guilty of this “flaw”. Never ignore it or change it. On the opposite – make it stronger, deeper and more apparent. Empower it. Don’t make your life too simple. Create your world exactly the way you want it – with a lot of pretty clothes, nice smelling things, beautiful traditions and elegant habits. By doing all of these things, woman expresses her great love to herself, to her body, to her world, and everyone will treat her the same way eventually.
Please, never become simple, convenient and easy. All of these “flaws” make us someone that all men crave and want. They don’t have that, so they naturally gravitate to it. Additionally, by staying this way we help them strengthen their masculine qualities of order and stability. We make their logic deeper, their body stronger and their Spirit brighter.
Never be ashamed of being a real woman. Always embrace not only positive aspects of femininity, but all of its “flaws”.