Being able to speak smoothly and beautifully is one of the fine arts of womanhood. Our magical soothing words and the melody of our voice are all very powerful woman’s tools. This is a mystical art because there is true magic in our speech as our voice and words can influence others on a very deep and subconscious level.
By using just your voice you can bring up various emotions and reactions, from rejection to acceptance. You can change another person’s mood, you can calm them down and make them feel good. Because by using our voice and certain words we manifest our state from the inside, we share our desires and mood. If our speech is pleasant and sweet, a man will start melting and a child will start smiling. Our words are very powerful and can cover others like a magical blanket.
Speech as an Art
However, the ability to speak correctly is a true feminine art that can sometimes be difficult. It is usually believed that sweet, pleasant speech is one of the manifestations of real femininity because a feminine woman does not curse, does not argue and does not judge. There is truth in that but let’s take a closer look.
When we decide to speak nicely and pleasantly, we can do so for some time. We can talk very sweetly to our partner, our children, to all other people everywhere. So we do so for the first 3-4 days. And suddenly something happens one day 5…like maybe someone accidentally hits you with something or steps on your foot, and we have such a strong reaction inside, but we still keep our mouth shut. So whatever we feel inside stays there, instead of being expressed. And the more we keep it there, the more it will get accumulated. With time, it will start showing on our face, in our mimic, in the tone of our voice, and then eventually in our whole mood and attitude. So we come back to the very beginning, and all our attempts in feminine speech become in vain.
One Way to Pretty Speech
So one of the ways to use our speech as a mystical feminine art is to be able to process our feelings and emotions inside of us first, instead of controlling and suppressing them. The way we process them is by accepting, acknowledging, expanding, observing, filling our selves inside with it, living through them and then finally healthily expressing them. It is important to recognize the feelings in the moment of here and now. It is important to live it fully and then let it go freely. This is the path to a beautiful speech.
So as you can see, the art of the beautiful speech is mastered by us when we recognize our feelings and when we know how to express them, without having to avoid or ignore them. This may be tedious work at the beginning but as time goes by, you become better and better at it. In the end, when we can really do that, we can express our real selves with all our states without any regret or discomfort.
Once you know how to do that, you can talk to everyone, even your family members, in a very pleasant and sweet way, very calmly and honestly. So you use that softness of the speech not because of the fear to offend but because it has become a part of you, it is now your skill. That is when words become magical and they can affect others in miraculous ways. And even when you have to decline something, you will do it with such dignity and sweetness, that the other party will actually enjoy it. This is true art.
Speech as a Weapon
A woman who knows how to speak artfully can build her relationships with a man, inspire him, calm him down and make them both closer to each other and more open. Unfortunately, most women do not know this skill and do not realize it is an art and use their speech and words inappropriately.
Most of the modern women use their words as a weapon. They turn their speech into something very sharp and learn to use it strategically to communicate just like men. Being in the world of men, this is their way to be heard and to speak to everyone. A feminine speech is much more powerful than that, in its incredible softness and attractiveness. Probably most of them do not know that a woman’s speech is being perceived by men as… music. This happens because they perceive it by the same part of their brain that perceives music. Whilst man’s speech is being perceived by a man with the part of the brain that is responsible for processing the information. So what do you think affects people most: speech or music?
Music may not have much information but it affects us deeply. It can bring up a specific state, a mood, motivation or inspiration. It can hypnotize us even. That is why it is so very important for a woman to use her speech clear and concise way, yet still, remain mysterious and inspirational. She has to learn how to speak beautifully, how to make it her powerful tool.
Magic of Words
If a woman speaks directly, clearly and harshly, she will be perceived by men as a man. No matter how she looks. So in ancient times, women knew to use their speech in all kinds of daily magic: to bless or curse someone, to inspire, to motivate, even to heal. For the same reasons judging and gossiping literally take the energy away from a woman, it kills her feminine essence.
One element of our speech is words. Next time you talk, listen and try to notice – whether you want to fight with your words or want to create relationships and bring peace into a conversation? Remember, that woman creates relationships when she speaks, while a man shares information when he speaks. Simply make sure you are mindful of the way you speak, and use your heart in it.
Another important element besides words is your voice. When you speak from your throat level, this can sound a little less pleasant, with effort, with desperation, with demand. Instead, try to go one level down and speak from your chest. To do so, just relax your neck and soften your breath. When you speak from your chest (and heart) it is almost impossible to argue, to yell, to speak too fast or too strong. Chest speech is calming, lulling and very warm.
Cursing vs Blessing
Be very careful how you speak and when, and which intonations and words you use. You can curse someone easily without really knowing it, or meaning it. Once you say something out loud, with strong emotions, it can affect the person it was addressed to right away. This can also happen to you because you can curse yourself easily as well. Or if you want to use other terms – you can create a negative program for yourself and others.
So take some time and reflect on how you speak and what words you use. Do you use negative words or swear words? Do you blame and guilt trip yourself when you think you did something wrong? All of these things are self-destructive. Change all the negative to positive. Make a fairy tale out of your life and instead of calling yourself “stupid”, call yourself “Princess” or “Goddess”. The same goes for all of the other people in your life.
With time, you’ll notice how things start changing. Speak beautifully about beautiful things. Speak purely and sweetly about the sweetness of life. This is one of the powerful mystical arts of the feminine that can create abundance and happiness around you daily.