Interesting title, right? Yes, some women are against beauty. Or they don’t care about it much. Why do they do that and how is that possible is something I want to start talking about today.
I often hear from women “I want to be beautiful” and you just need to replace “beautiful” with something else – thinner, slimmer, clearer skin, longer hair, better nails, bigger eyes, soother skin. Many different desires that have one thing in common that always follows “I want it but I don’t have time” or “I just can’t”, “I never have a chance”. I hear it literally everywhere. It amazes me because I genuinely do not understand why a woman would come up with such a shallow explanation when her natural authentic role in the world is to be beauty – to be inspiring, charming and sensual?
The fact of the matter is this: women just don’t want to be beautiful. Which still amazes me, but it is true. They simply do not want that, and all those explanations are just excuses that take them away from this statement “I do not want to be beautiful”. Because let’s face it, when a woman really wants something, she will get it. So why would she say that and what is the real reason behind such odd behavior?
I mean, of course sometimes you might say it is not your “thing”. Or that it takes too much time, energy or resources. It is really not true though. We have plenty of services and devices now that can help us with all of those things. And we have tons of various beauty salons, incredible amount of shops, both in real time and online. We have an ocean of choice of beauty products, beauty accessories, pretty clothes, jewelry and other helpful things. And on top of that, we also have plenty of technical devices at home that save our precious time: we have washing machines, dishwashers, timed ovens, cool blow dryers, and many other helpful things that make our life easier and better. And yet women still say “no” to beauty and add that they “don’t have time, energy, resources, etc”.
Reality is that it’s about the lack of self-love. Yout own self is not a priority. It does not imply that a woman should become selfish and forget about everyone else. It simply means that your world starts with YOU, with your love for you. If you don’t have love for yourself, authentic love, you won’t really have it for others.
Two Important Questions
Mostly, there are two questions that us, women, have in our heads. And those same questions are the reason why this whole beauty thing is not happening.
Here are they:
– How do I become prettier or better? How do I improve my look? How do I become more beautiful and attractive?
– Why am I so ugly/unattractive/fat/skinny/short/tall/pale/dark? How do I fix myself?
Let’s start with the second one. This one is the most popular question in women’s heads and reside their daily, for some all of their life. Obviously, this is a question that does not take us anywhere, it is literally a dead-end kind of question that only takes us to self-loathing and self-distraction. So one thing I would like you to start doing right now is to STOP ASKING IT. Please, just never ever do it, ever. This is like a crime against yourself. Additionally, this is also a self-betray and the betray of the entire world that gave you all of your wonderful gifts that you ignore.
What about first question? It looks mostly okay, it has a good intention and even a direction, you would think. However, the one thing that is wrong with it is that it only touches the surface of the problem. It doesn’t really go deep, and only remains in the layer of our own misunderstandings and confusions. So if we follow this question, it will only make us more confused and we will eventually get lost. And no matter what we do here, nothing will change. Because water should nourish roots, not only closed buds. If anything, buds actually die if it is only them that we water.
So what is the solution here? The answer is this. It is not about improving yourself, it is about discovering your own natural beauty that you already have, and helping it grow. This whole blog is about it. You already have this beauty inside of you, you just need to find it. This is our true task as women. Soil should become fertile first.
It is not about improving yourself, it is about discovering your own natural beauty that you already have, and helping it grow.
Going back to our two questions earlier, all of these things prepare us for something deeper and more constructive, for a third question. And that question is “Why am I scared to be beautiful?” Because if we contemplate on it a significant amount of time, it all comes down to fear, like most things. It is the fear of being beautiful because being average is easier. It is very think to think of yourself as someone common, with no particular features, just like everyone else, right? And then all you have to do is just sit and do nothing, and be upset with yourself. Pretty easy and convenient. And most importantly – very familiar.
So most often than not we are just scared to show our real beauty, to shine the way we can shine. If we do that and start shining, everyone will pay attention to us, and that can be scary. Everyone will want to approach us, talk to us and maybe even say compliments, and some will get jealous, or feel uncomfortable around us. There are also some who would point a finger at us, calling us a show off or maybe even admire us. And they might even call us… beautiful. How scary is that? Very.
Beauty Comfort Zone
Usually woman would think all of that before she even starts trying. She has not found her own beauty yet and she would already have all of those excuses blossoming inside. So instead she chooses to go the usual route and goes back to nothing, without even trying to make an attempt to put some lipstick or a regular facial cream.
Because being common is easier, it takes less time and effort. It is very convenient. Doesn’t it feel like a crime against Nature? Your own nature and Nature in general? You were born with gifts that you choose to ignore and don’t do anything about. And now that we know that the reason is fear, it is important to understand why. And the answer to that question will be different for everyone. Here are some questions that may help you start the journey to finding your answer.
Questions to explore your fear
- If you go to all the events and celebrations mostly in jeans and t-shirts, with no makeup or hairdo, ask yourself “why?” What stops you from being dressed nicely and look pretty?
- If you just avoid pretty venues, events or clothes on purpose, the question still pertains. Why do you avoid it all? It is more important to ask yourself this question now, because in reality you are avoiding yourself.
- How do you feel when you go out in your glory and beauty? How often do you do that? Do you feel awkward or embarrassed from all the attention? And if yes, ask yourself – why?
- Are you scared to be dashingly beautiful, to the point when everyone turns heads? Why?
- Why are you scared to be so beautiful, what are you trying to protect yourself from? And how does it help you in your life?
The most important thing here is to try to be as honest as possible with your answers. After all, you are just asking yourself. If you answer with all honesty, it will help you understand why you have this fear. And then, once you have this understanding, you will be ready to take the next step – the step to change it. And then nothing will stop you.
Have fun with self-discovery and don’t forget: external look is only a reflection of an internal attitude.