Today I would like to share something extremely important. That came to me as a reminder yesterday night, before I was falling asleep. Every article I share usually comes to me as an idea, or an inspiration from something I read or heard. And after further researching it, I come up with a text. This information is an intriguing mixture of archetypes, psychology and fairy tales.
Every woman has four states that make her a real Goddess in the highest meaning, if she uses them both equally when needed. Most of us do not do that because we simply don’t know how. However, knowledge is power! And this is why I am creating this post today.
Queen is the most popular woman’s state now. This woman is independent, self-sufficient, self-confident and proud of herself.
She is the master of her life. She has a successful career or business. A woman like that is very smart, well educated, and straightforward. And she never or rarely asks for help. Often times, she takes part in many social events, she is well known. And she is ready to receive all the time.
The look: suits, pencil skirts, trousers as a symbol of emancipation and freedom. Mostly minimal style. Blue, grey, black and white colors. Nothing that would encourage flirting or playfulness. Simple makeup, classical perfumes. French manicure. Expensive but simple jewelry, expensive watch. Straight back, raised head.
The second most popular state is Houswife. Woman in this state is a mother, in all aspects. This is how woman feels when she gives birth to a child. She is very calm and peaceful, she does all the house work, she likes to cook and clean. This woman knows how to listen. She knows how to organize and keep things in order. This woman takes care of everybody, she is filled with maternal energy. So she is the real owner of her space, with high organizational skills. She is ready to give all the time.
The look: she has a soft delicate character, soft voice, soft gaze, soft speech. Soft long skirts and dresses, or leggings with long tunics. Simple fabrics, like cotton or linen. She smells like pies. This woman is always ready to put on some comfortable sweater and sneakers and go biking alone or with her kids, and spend a day on nature. She likes warm earth tones and colors in clothes and make up. Her hair is braided or in a bun. Minimal to none amount of jewelry. Often times, just a wedding ring, to show that she is a wife and mother.
Playful and weak. She is asking for everything, and she always gets it because she wants it. As oppose to Queen, who gets everything herself. She is an eternal dreamer. There will always be someone who will want to save her and protect her. She is naïve, sincere, flirty, she admires her suitors all the time. And that is why she always receives everything: gifts, dresses, jewelry.
The look: soft light dresses of silk and viscose, with laces and ribbons. Light pastel colors of spring: light pink, light blue, light yellow, light green. Noticeable or funny jewelry: big earrings, big bangles, something very attractive and playful. Make up is light and tender. Loose curly hair. Floral perfume.
Passionate, free, seductive and sexual. She attracts men very easy with her tight dresses, corsets and sexy attitude. Sex is her main tool. She is the epitome of a woman, always looks and acts the way that everyone’s attention is on her. And she is ready to give men what they want.
The look: feminine sexy dresses and skirts, heels, red lipstick, cleavage. Her waist and breasts are always seen right away. Her colors are dark red, black, purple – all the colors that brings out the desire. Lace lingerie and stockings. Long earrings bring attention to her long neck. A pendant strategically hangs pointing out to the hollow between the breasts. Bright eyes, red lips. Deep sensuous perfumes of jasmine and ylang-ylang scents.
Why they matter?
These four energies should be equally presented in every woman, and every woman should be able to always skillfully switch from one gear to another, depending on the situation or mood. However, this is not always the case. Moreover, often times a woman has only one state or another ALL THE TIME. Now that we know there are four of them, we know it doesn’t look like a right way to be. What happens if only one state is constantly present in woman’s life?
Always a queen. Total and complete loneliness. Distrust to anyone, especially to men. She counts only on herself, and teaches everyone to do so. This woman has nothing but cold inside. And she is the one who fixes everything, who thinks knowing how to be strong and independent (and unhappy) is the safest way to be. Typical lonely business woman.
Always a housewife. Overly protective and giving. She is very comfortable to be with, too comfortable to be with. Often helps her man and supports him, even with money. Often times eventually becomes a doormat. She is not the one who brings the desire to admire, or to protect, because she simply does not allow that. Also, she mothers everyone, even when it is not needed.
Always a girl. At first, men love to be with her. She is always ready to receive their gifts and likes to be taken care of. However, eventually, men get tired of that because she is in the constant state of receiving. She never gives anything back. As a result, no one takes her seriously, and treats her only like a stubborn little girl.
Always a lover. “All men want only sex!” is her motto. Very often men fight for her and get her, however it never gets to the point when they marry her. She is never able to keep a man, they all go away sooner or later. Because only sex is never enough.
Balance is the key
All four states represent the main law of relationships: giving and receiving. When all four of them are balanced and gracefully ruled by a woman, this is a true Femininity. It is very important to keep all four of them balanced, to keep the energies of giving and receiving equally present. And only change them when needed. This is the main key of woman’s nature – her flexibility and ability to adapt to different circumstances and act accordingly. To be a housewife when man comes back after work, and cook for him. To be a girl and jump from happiness, when he fixed something at home. Attract and seduce him when he is not expecting that, like a true lover. And be a queen, take care of yourself, your body, your and your skin. Feel confident and self-sufficient.
We all use all four of them all the time. If we get stuck in just one or two, maybe it is time to feel which one is missing. The easiest way to find out is too feel whether you give too much or receive too much. A woman should be different, she should be all of that: queen, lover, girl and housewife.
Stay beautiful and loved, darlings!
I love this article!! I’d love to read about a follow-up article on each of the four types. You definitely should have courses on these types. Good job!
Ksenia Sita says
Thank you Mimi!! 🙂 < 3 I will think about a course idea for sure 😉
Hi! I love this kind of topics, and I would like to know where did you get these informations. Can you please give me the book title or other documents? Thank you
Ksenia Sita says
Hello Anna! I’m glad you are enjoying the blog. The majority of the information is only available on the Russian internet hence why I started this blog. Plus my own thoughts and experience.