I will try to make a quick and comprehensive guide where we will compare men and women on the level of energy or chakra (of course :P), and will find out what are the differences between them. And there are quite a few differences. So before you make any argument like “But we are both humans, and are equal”, I encourage you to read this article. And then meditate on it a little bit.
Ok, so men and women are two different human species. And the differences are quite obvious already on the physical level. There is a very good reason we were created differently by Nature, or Creator. Each one of us have our own functions in this world, but not only that. The energy flows differently in us, and there is a very good reason for that too.
From the spiritual perspective, we all have seven main chakras in our bodies, or seven energy centers. And the way men and women are created is that those chakras function and work differently, on purpose. Chakras’ energy usually flows one direction or the other, clockwise or counter clockwise. Which in turn gives one person in a couple passiveness in that particular chakra, and creates active mode in the other one. The way it works is that we actually compliment each other PERFECTLY, on a basic energetic level. Now, if only we acted based on our natural energy flows.. but for whatever reason, we mess it up and choose not to. But this is a different topic.
Let’s take a look at each energy center, or chakra, in men and women, and see the beautiful differences. In this part I will share about first three chakras.
First Chakra: Security
The first chakra is Muladhara. This chakra represents security, survival and posterity. Also, this chakra is active in men and passive in women. In other words, man gives energy on this level and woman accepts it. We can see it even on the physiological level: the way genitals work and even the way they look.
This means that providing security is a man’s role, by nature. He gives her security so that she can survive, he provides her with basic needs. Our role as women here is to focus on our main function in return, which on this level is acceptance, as we have established earlier. Most women have issues with this. Because ideally we have to trust our men entirely, and trust that they will cover our basic needs.
Usually, due to many different reasons, traumas and history, we are not allowing men to take care of us. We count only on ourselves, while hoping to have someone near who could take care of us, secretly. Because when it comes to real world and real relationships, we are simply scared to do it – to fully accept and trust. So we do it all ourselves.
And what happens then? Then, woman takes care of herself on her own, trying to meet her ends meet, and our first chakra turns direction and becomes… active. Which means, it works according to a male direction. If in this situation woman already has a partner, he has nothing left to do but change his first chakra’s direction to passive, to balance it out. Which means in this couple a man accepts things now, and woman – provides. Such situation is very hard to change with time too, because woman’s subtle psychic energy is incredibly strong.
This means that for the situation to change, woman needs to change her actions direction. This can be very scary. There has to be a lot of trust. But you need to understand, that if you have a partner, a boyfriend or husband, and you still take care of your basic needs and your security yourself, then you simply take on a man’s function in a couple, which harms your femininity and his masculinity.
Meditate on it.
Second Chakra: Pleasure
Second chakra, Swadhistana, governs pleasures and desires, and works differently now. Woman’s chakra here is active, and man’s one is passive. Which means the same thing: women here provide, and men accept. On a physiological level, women here naturally have a little belly (or should have, in a healthy natural female body constitution), and men naturally have tight flat belly.
According to the ancient Vedic treaties, man is someone who receives pleasure, and woman is someone who is pleasing, someone through who the pleasure comes out. This means that our task, as women, is to provide pleasurable and comfortable environment to a man.
…And I can already hear arguments and upset reaction from women after this statement. I can hear how they say that this is not fair. They don’t understand, how can us, women, serve men? Is this a Medieval Era or what? Right? I think, something alone those lines.
To give you an answer to this, if you allow to hear it, is that it is not unfair at all. In fact, everything in this system is very fair. Let’s look closer: we have a total of seven main chakras. Where three of them are passive, other three are active. And one chakra, the very last one, works the same way. So, there is no injustice here. There is a simple division on roles, natural roles, that we need to understand. We need to understand that men have their duties, women have their duties, and together they create a perfect couple with a perfect balance.
And our duty on this level of pleasure is to give it. This includes sexual pleasure, pleasure of food, pleasure of beautiful environment and ambiance, at home or wherever you are. This means that a perfect woman should be able to create such an environment for a man where he would be able to stay easily and comfortably, and his desires would be satisfied. And not only just satisfied, he would be able to receive a real pleasure from them. And there is a big difference.
To give you a couple examples. Your man can cook himself, or you can even cook for him just to feed him. Some basic stuff to not keep him hungry. This will satisfy his need, but not more than that. And if it was not just another meal, but some little feast, a little ritual, with details and attention, this will be a different story. The same thing goes for pleasures in bed. You can simply do your duty as spouses, but you can also make it a celebration of love. A real celebration of union.
Meditate on it.
Third Chakra: Money
Third chakra, Manipura, is about money. This chakra is about finances, prosperity, will and achievements. This chakra is switching its direction again, and now it is active in men and passive in women. Physiologically, this area in a man’s body is protruding a little more than in woman’s – it is the area of solar plexus. Which means, man gives and provides on this level, and woman accepts. And we, as women, have issues here once more.
This part is tricky. Women often refuse help in the way of money from men here, or they refuse to ask for help, whether in terms of money or anything else. They feel guilty or ashamed, they feel they will owe something and they don’t want to feel this way. This creates a very serious conflict, on the level of energies of man and woman. If woman refuses to asks here and refuses to accept his energy, man will stop giving it eventually and change his direction, or he simply has less of it in the end (money, success, energy).
Which means, one of the reasons why man does not earn enough money is because his woman does not ask for it. Makes sense? To me, it does. If she says “I don’t need anything”, this creates the stagnation and disruption of the natural flow of the energy in a couple. Which of course will create issues.
If this is a usual woman’s attitude – to life, money, to her man, relationships, then man won’t be able to earn enough. He simply won’t have energy to do that. Men on their own don’t really need much. Most bachelor’s places have minimal amount of everything – a place to sleep, a place to eat, eggs for breakfast. That’s it. They truly don’t need much.
The other scenario in this situation is when a man stop earning money at all, and becomes a gigalo – someone who lives off woman. Or, he finds someone who would stimulate him all the time to reach his goals with her desires. And this is the best option.
Our duty in a couple here is to accept everything from men – gifts, money, his achievements and success, that he often does in our honor, for us.
So, if a woman takes on a responsibility on this level, and becomes active, a man has nothing left to do again but accept. Then, he becomes someone who is a stay-at-home parent, a dependent, and so on and so forth. And it is on us, ladies – we took on too much here.
Meditate on it.
In the second part, I will share about other four chakras.
Balance is the key. Much love to you all.
S. M says
So if you don’t have A Man or someone to take care of you. The Woman has to do it all by herself, what if a Woman is past reproductive age and has nobody to help her, How can she cope with that
Ksenia Sita says
Hello and thank you for your comment! In situations like that woman should try to emphasize doing what she likes and enjoys, like hobbies or things that bring her pleasure. This is the best way to spend time while you are single. If you wish to remain single, you definitely can. Just make sure you spend considerable amount of time doing what you truly love. This will help the energy flow in a correct direction <3
OMG, Thank you for this article! We seem to be so confused with our roles nowadays, which creates an endless confusion and friction in the relationship leading ultimately to a breakdown and dissipation of the union.
Ksenia Sita says
Hi Simona! Thank you for your comment. Yes, this confusion creates more confusion in a couple and relationship. Once we both know our roles and responsibilities, everything will fall into place naturally.
Hi, everything seems perfectly balanced and I like it. I do not mind providing pleasure to a man at Second Chakra level, but this Chakra is also said to be the centre of the creativity. Does it change woman’s duties and how?
Ksenia Sita says
Hi Nadya! Thank you for your comment and great question. Yes, you are correct – Swadhistana chakra is definitely responsible for our creative energy, and if we want it to stay healthy, we as women need to make sure to engage in creative activities once in a while. Expressing yourself in a creative way, whether it is writing or dancing or painting, will definitely contribute to the balance of chakras. You can apply this to relationships as well, for instance, creative cooking or decorating your space or bedroom. The reason I did not mention creativity in my article is because the main focus was relationships between the two. However, creativity can still be a part of it as well. Sky is the limit 🙂
Hello, as a man I got to tell you that you are veru courageous to say the truth about womanhood, thank you. Yes the way you described the chakra roles are very much truth. Where did you get this information? I read Osho and found many of your insights very similar.
Great I’ll share this and I tell you, you are courageous Cause today Feminism is killing feminity and causing exactly what your descriptions say.
Ksenia Sita says
Hello Shan, thank you for your kind commment. I feel like I speak the truth so it needs to be shared one way or another. It feels like that intuitively, and usually intuition never lies 🙂 My information comes from various sources – online, books, lectures, studies, personal experience and insights. I also love Osho a lot.
I’m amazed that a woman would decide to be this honest. Even as a man, I recognize those parts where we should be active, but some men fall for the trap of modernity and accept the imbalance. I’ve told few women that “Women do not know their power” but that is not the case here.
Many women refuse to see that they’re harming themselves in a lot of ways, and they won’t even stop to think. I know a few women who would go berserk on reading about the second chakra of pleasure, refusing to be the one who offers this pleasure and demanding to be pleasured. Such women will readily accept the role of the first chakra of security and accept that a man is the one who should provide but they’ll fail to see that the roles are all about creating a balance. As a man, while reading about the role of the first chakra of security, intuitively, my body and mind were agreeing with what I was reading without argument. I feel when a woman is in the right grounding, when she reads about the second chakra of pleasure, she should intuitively agree too. What they fail to see is that it doesn’t mean she won’t get to be pleasured in the areas in which she desires, but in this regard, she is the one who has to be more active. I love how you talked about the thought process of some women that will go thus, “how can us, women, serve men?” This is where most men differ from women, as most men readily want to provide security, but few women readily will agree to be active when it comes to Swadhistana. Surprisingly, the women who take charge of this chakra can tell how fulfilling and empowering it is and furthers the balance. There are so many women missing out.
I’m surprised there’s someone like you willing to tell them. Some would keep this a secret, as it increases the chance of flourishing for those who know what they’re as women. You are a woman in tune with the truth, and the bravery to tell it to the world in these times is courageous. May the universe continue to guide you.
Ksenia Sita says
Hello there. Thank you for reading my articles and leaving such lovely comments. I am honored it touched you so much. I so agree with you on women missing out. They are looking for treasures in wrong places, when all the treasures are here in plain sight. That is the reason I started this blog, and being Russian I am just a direct person who says things the way they are, but in a gentle way. I feel that if only women tune in with their femininity internally, it would all make sense to them naturally, because it is who they are. I am happy you shared your thoughts, they only confirm I need to continue. Hugs and blessings!