Mother is Our Mirror

Happy Mother’s Day.

I figured, today would be a good day to write about mother. And while I was initially thinking of sharing something like meditation with the Divine Mother or Mother Earth, I realized we actually seldom turn towards our own human mother, a woman who gave us life. And that is something we eventually need to do, in order to grow and evolve. Why is that? Keep on reading.

When we look in the mirror, we try to see ourselves. However, all we can see is just a surface of us. It is not really us, it is basically an illusion. No matter how long we stand in front of the mirror, we won’t be able to see what we really need to see – who we truly are. To do that, we simply need to look around, and see the situations and people that surround us. All of that is a direct consequence of our internal processes. And for a woman specifically the best mirror is her mother.

Mother-Daughter Connection

The connection between a daughter and a mother is very powerful, and determined by things like karmic connection, ancestral connection and empathic connection.

That all means that our soul always chooses in advance which parents to incarnate with to resolve all the necessary soul lessons. So the choice of a particular mother and a particular ancestry is of no coincidence, especially how close this connection will be during the incarnation on Earth. Since karma is basically all the accumulated experience, both negative and positive, that determines our life, our own personal karma is usually related and reflects our ancestral karma – the one from all of our ancestors.

When a soul comes to Earth, it becomes another representative of this ancestry and thus takes on all the baggage of previously accumulated karma, passed over from the mother. So, in the end everyone involved has one common task: our ancestors need to work on that accumulated negative karma to move up the level, spiritually speaking; our mother resolves similar issues while resolving her own personal ones; and we do the same exact thing.

Mindfulness is Our Everything

That is why we have two options: we can either dig deeper and learn about our ancestry to figure out the lessons (which is a good option), or we can take a shorter route but not necessarily easier one, and look at our mother as our mirror. The reason it is not easier because whatever is closer to us is harder to see. However, we do have a wonderful tool that can help us with that – mindfulness.

There is a very powerful connection between a mother and a child that starts with baby still being in the womb. It is called empathy, when people can feel the emotions of others as their own. This connection is so strong that a mother can always feel what happens to her child. There is also another side of this connection, a mirroring one. This side is especially strong within the mother-daughter connection.

Two Woman’s Hypostasis

Each woman should discover and fulfill two hypostasis in her life: a life of a normal mother, wife and creator of the hearth and home, as a more basic variation, and an Empress – a true representation of the Divine Mother. Someone who represents a Perfection of Nature as a Giver of Life. Depending on our level of self-growth and spiritual development, we are able to manifest that hypostasis to a degree. In other words, whatever our soul has already gained will facilitate that manifestation. Our mother is a representation of the Empress on Earth, that shows us with her mirroring what needs to be resolved and worked on, what stops us from further growth. And most often it is hard to see that and to be aware of that. It is hard to understand, but it is even harder to accept. For instance, how do you feel now when you’re reading this? Is there an acceptance? Or resistance?

The reason it is hard to accept is because of the soul traumas we all have that we feel empathically. Those traumas predetermine behavior of most people, especially those who are not fully mindful yet. We resonate with those soul traumas by connecting them with our personal traumas we received in this life, and that we came here to heal.

Facing Mother – Facing Ourselves

This empathic connection makes our feelings stronger and thus increases the negative reaction on our mother’s personality traits. This is exactly where we can find answers. Our mother also goes through a journey, resolving the issues and overcoming the obstacles in her own unique way. Those are the same obstacles from our common ancestry, as I mentioned before, but she looks at them and approaches them from a different angle. So, in order to understand our own life, we need to try to understand the life of our mother, her decisions, hopes and difficulties. We need to understand her choices and why she is the way she is right now.

It is hard but very brave thing to do, to try to see all of that mindfully, with a lot of awareness, and without perception through pain or prejudice. It often happens that daughters either repeat their mother’s life path or take a completely opposite route. This latter way of life does not guarantee the resolution of all the issues and exiting those life patterns. The only way to get out of those patterns is to face and see them, without any pink glasses, and not run away from them.

We simply need to fully open our heart, at some point in life, and let go. This is when a true loving-kindness happens. It comes from the heart, not from the feeling of guilt or duty. And that makes you one step closer to freedom.

Based on the text by Sofia Savitri

Photo credit: by Daria Obymaha