Accepting yourself as a woman can be difficult for most modern women. It is nearly impossible to embrace femininity without the realization of your own feminine nature. The modern world requires women to be equal with men not on a basic human rights level, but also professionally. And it can be hard.
It can be hard for women because the main mission of a woman’s life is motherhood and care of loved ones, and it is being lost now. The whole being of a woman is built to do these things perfectly and often even effortlessly. It is in our DNA, however, we are all shaped differently due to upbringing, families we grew up, what we were taught in schools and what people surrounded us.
Many women who found success in careers start thinking about why they have this feeling of unhappiness, lack of satisfaction, even though they are successful. For most, if not all, modern successful women to accept their femininity is equal to accepting their weakness. However, no matter how hard we try to suppress our feminine essence, we still remain women: emotional, sensitive, and caring.
Before we talk about a few simple steps we can take to embrace our feminine side, what could be the real reasons we are having such a hard time doing it?
Possible Reasons for Blocked Femininity
+ Conflicts and fights in the family where a girl grew up.
+ During the process of upbringing a girl decides it is easier to be a boy because maybe her brother received more love, or her mother and women around her were single and were always complaining about how hard it was to be a woman.
+ Focusing more on developing logic and linear thinking in classes at school without paying enough attention to the creative side of things. Participation in various contests and competitions, aiming to reach certain goals and have an external success – all of these are very masculine activities.
+ Disharmonious sexual life, sexual traumas especially at the beginning.
+ Incorrect attitude towards normal and natural female physiological processes, like menstruation, pregnancy, breastfeeding, and as a result fear of it and a desire to escape it.
+ “Masculine” type of job and career or business.
+ Negative attitude towards men that has started due to disrespect, fear, violence, or suppression.
+ Non-realization of your creative potential.
+ The lack of self-love. This is the most important piece that originates from the lack of tenderness and love in childhood.
As you can imagine, most of us have one or a few things from this list. And unfortunately, it is a normal part of life. What is important is that we are now starting to learn about femininity more and more. It is up to us to step into this deeper and see how different our lives can be when we embrace this part of ourselves.
A woman who is unhappy as a woman, the one who does all of the things herself, is in constant internal tension. This is why gynecological diseases happen, early climaxes start, depression and apathy grow. And we should not just let it happen. We need to heal our inner girl, inner woman, so that she stops being sad and scared, but learn you accept her beautiful self instead.
Once your happiness happens inside of you, internally, on the level of sensations, this is when the outside expression of this love appears – in the form of the passionate hobby, self-realization, or a man of your dreams.
Steps To Embrace Femininity
So how do we accept and embrace our femininity?
1. Stop being scared of your own feelings and emotions. You are a WOMAN. Let yourself express and say everything that you feel. If it is not possible at work, understandably, do it as often as possible at home. Remember that you are either a girlfriend, a wife, or a mother, so speaking in a controlling tone probably won’t be perceived as good. Men really want to go away when this happens because they feel the man in you. And they want a woman, not another man.
2. Let others help you. Seriously. You don’t have to be strong and independent everywhere. Let your husband make decisions, and your son do the laundry. If you think you are a strong person, it does not necessarily mean you have to do everything yourself. The power of a woman is in her flexibility and even fragility. And it is also in learning how to perceive the outside world with love.
3. Try to truly take care of others. Even if you don’t have a family of your own, you can take care of your parents, siblings, or other relatives. When you build relationships with your coworkers, be a woman sometimes – soft with a charming smile. Don’t be afraid that someone will think you are weak and unable to make your own decisions.
A woman’s fragility is an important element in a psychological organization of a woman. If we suppress it, we do not become strong. We only continue to try to be like men, competing with them which eventually destroys us and won’t help us to embrace femininity.
It is never too late to start changing 😉