I have written about ways on accumulating feminine energy, or Shakti, here and here. And even though it is important to know them, what is more important is to actually being able to keep it. When we accumulate, we should also know how to make sure it doesn’t slip away from us through our own fingers.
We may be doing things that we don’t think can cause the loss of it. However, if you are sensitive enough, you might feel drained or unusually tired right after some of them. I know I am, for sure.
So let’s take a look at some things, situations, words and actions that make us lose our precious feminine energy Shakti.
When Shakti Says Bye-Bye
1. When we don’t respect ourselves, and other people.
2. When we gossip, talk negatively behind someone’s back, when we try to be a part of business that is not ours – which is someone else’s life.
3. When we talk in a rude way, using cussing and bad words. And when our speech is unclean, unpleasant. When our voice is unpleasant – too loud, unhappy, grumpy, harsh, depressed, pitiful. Speech is a powerful tool that we should learn to use properly.
4. When we dress inappropriately. This is not about the occasion or culture. It is about being inappropriate towards our own delicate nature. I have mentioned already that we have certain special spots in our body where our Shakti is being stored: breasts, knees, buttocks, back, hips. When we open these areas with our bare skin to everyone around us, especially men, we draw people’s attention there, naturally. I mean, we do it on purpose too, most of the times. We get that attention. However, when that happens, on a subtle level of energy, something is being taken away from us too – our Shakti. Naked woman’s body has a very strong effect on people, and the reason for that is not only physical – it is the presence of Shakti that all the observers receive. Meditate on it.
5. When we speak with the intention to humiliate someone and use sarcasm in our speech. Especially (!) towards men.
6. When we don’t know what good manners are and never use them.
7. When we have too many sexual partners, or even a little bit of them, and none of them is our beloved, or better yet – a husband. This has nothing to do with religion, unfortunately. It has a far deeper and more affecting reason on the level of energy exchange between man and woman. My next article will be about that.
8. When we cheat, obviously. For the same reason, mentioned above. Cheating not only on physical, but on a subtle level (emotional and mental).
9. When we always complain. The minute we do that, the energy goes down like a water flushes in the toilette.
10. When we become angry, mean or aggressive. These are all not feminine soft energies, they are foreign to us. Therefore, they will drain us.
11. When we stop care, become not sensitive to others and start living without compassion. Sensitivity feeds our gentle woman’s psyche.
12. When we try to control others or tell them what to do, no matter a little or a lot. A lot of control is an aggression, a little bit of it – manipulation. So, when a woman says “I will make it happen no matter what!” or “Everything will be the way I want it to be”, it is a dangerous woman. Not so much dangerous to others, but to herself – she damages herself in those moments, acting in a selfish, immature and aggressive way. It has nothing to do with determination, by the way.
13. When we are not sincere and authentic when we express our feelings. More and more often I see how people express something, and they don’t really mean it. They do it for all the wrong reasons (to look good in public; because someone said so; because this is a “norm”). This happens when we lose contact with our Self. So we start playing roles and become hypocrites. This behavior dries us out, energetically. We eventually can become like a dry old mean lady.
14. When we compare ourselves to others or try to compete with them. Hear me out: life is not a competition. At all. No need to compete with other women or especially with men. We all have our own journey, and do the best we can and should. Comparing yourself to someone is a sign of the lack of self-love.
15. When we judge and being aggressive towards ourselves and others.
16. When we are not grateful. For everything.
17. When we have bad habits. This one is just crystal clear, a very strong sign of self-destruction due to the same reason – lack of self-love.
18. When we don’t take care of ourselves and forget who we are. We are women, therefore we should take really good care of ourselves: our body, hair, skin, our health, our thoughts, our living space, our belongings. The best way to do it is to think of yourself as a Goddess, or a lady. Would a Goddess or a lady go out in public with dirty hair? Or unclean clothes?
19. When we are tensed and stressed. Shakti goes down the drain again, so go get your massage or even a 30 minute hot bath session with yourself, candles and music.
20. When we move around too fast and too chaotic, too rough and too rigid. When we hustle. Women are water, so flow like one. Conserve your precious energy by taking time when you stand up and walk somewhere.
21. When we don’t trust life. Surrendering is one of the most powerful things to do to release your Shakti.
22. When we dry ourselves out by not creating enough, and by living a life without any pleasure. Don’t become a dry little prune. Indulge in things once in a while, and never stop being creative.
23. When we pursue men. Yes, this is depleting to us big time. Why? I’ll address that in me next article, I shall say. This is a simple way of energy exchange and its natural course. When we do that, we also tend to rush things. Which never ends well.
24. When we control our partner and always tell him what to do. We act from a man’s polarity at this point, which naturally takes away woman’s energy of Shakti.
25. When we don’t follow our men. Or better yet – anyone. A lot of women now do not know how to accept someone else’s authority and just follow. Have you noticed? They all want to lead and be a head of things. This is actually draining for us too.
26. When we don’t respect our parents, grandparents, just our whole family tree, ancestors, our Elders, Teachers, Spiritual Teachers. When we don’t respect people in general.
27. When we are too closed up and don’t know how to open ourselves. We should make sure to express ourselves and open up, otherwise our waters become stagnant and turn into a swamp.
28. When we talk way too much. The more we talk, the more our Shakti slips away.
I understand that some of these things may seem surprising to some and even absurd to others. And I don’t ask you to deny them right away or to follow them strictly. I am asking you to notice how you feel when they happen. Simply be more aware of your energy level, your mood and your sense of well-being. I guarantee you will starting noticing patterns with time.
And of course, there are some situations in life when it is hard to avoid some of those things. After all, we are still humans, not just women. However, it is important to stay away and realize that if some of those things become chronic, it can be very dangerous.
Stay full of energy and love, sweet beings.